"the first part makes no sense. I mean you can decide to ignore someone for reasons, that is up to the individual, but at the same time things like that aren't really...anyone business." Say the girl who has been rather nosey about peoples love lives, but that is a different matter.

At least to her.

"Okay the latter I will actually agree with you on. How do we know someone is capable or not without at least giving them a try. Sometimes a leader has to learn how to actually be one." Again says the girl who had to do exactly that and still got worried sometimes about it.